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Change

I have been meaning to post this for a while- but I wasn’t sure it really made sense until now. I came to the conclusion in the middle of the summer that change is a good thing only if you don’t know when it’s coming. Change is only scary when you are anticipating it, which of course I was.

Last year, while watching a documentary the topic came up of how to stay grounded in the spotlight of millions of people. He explained: “I go to this park and even though I have changed, I’ve grown up and am living my dream, this park stays the same.” Somehow, when I was taking a walk on the beach, I realized how that feels.

In the beginning of a new experience we start to freak out because we have no idea what to do. We spend each second before anticipating what could happen. When we get there, somehow we build up the courage to put one foot in front of another and power through it. Before you know it, what was new is now old and something you used to be scared of is now second nature.

We know we have to change. We know that change is a good thing, yet we forget that we know how to change. Life is too short to freak out and live in the shadows of yesterday. We have to smile and act like we are okay. Because in the beginning it may be terrible having to put a smile on your face, but before you know it you wonder why you were frowning in the first place.

All you have to do is act the part, play along with life and before you know it the light will be shining on you. This fall, as it seems that everyone I know will be going through change, remember to smile through the pain because no matter how hard it is to change the adventures on the other side of the door are unimaginable.

If you ever feel lost or get ahead of yourself go somewhere old where you have memories of the past. Sit there for a while and think about what you accomplished. Maybe, just maybe, you’ll begin to understand why the world changes in the first place.

G xx

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Connection

There’s something inside each of us that sparks indescribable feelings. This is a fact. It is different for each person. Sometimes it’s seeing the smile on someone’s face after saving a loved ones life. For others it is the moment of knowing that you aced a test that you studied all year for.

For me it is a lot of things. But a way to incorporate all of my passions into one is experiencing a simple moment of connection between people; one-on-one or to thousands of people all over the world.

I haven’t mastered the skill of sharing my feelings while in conversation. I just have so much to tell people. That is why I like to write and I like to sing because there is always a way to connect with someone without really saying anything- just looking into their eyes.

While I was watching a Coldplay Concert Movie Chris Martin said “and we look at each other and its like a great feeling that you might never look at that person in the eyes ever again so you have a little connection. It’s like every time you look at someone in the eyes you put a little thread between you so you can really connect and you have to approach everything with the freshness that they bring to it so by the time you finish you get a spider web of connections rather than a detachment which is what I used to sometimes feel.”

While hearing Chris talk about this experience I began to understand what he meant by this. We talk about connection and meaning. We think that we have to pour our heart and soul out and be in this vulnerable state where anything we say can break us yet expand us. I just now realized that all you have to do is be open, and look into someones eyes to see the truth.

Again today, I was reminded how much the human touch can affect someone. During a panic attack the best thing to do is to have someone hug you. In the beginning you fight it and try to push off but as the person continues to add pressure on your body you begin to breathe easier.

These simple forms of communication and connection is what provides us with the courage to move on. It is hard to aimlessly go through life without knowing someone will be there to catch you when you are down. To think that a hug or looking into someones eyes can give them the confidence to continue is something that makes humans unlike any other species.

We don’t need hour long speeches of praise or notes of encouragement to feel the satisfaction or love that is given. All we need to do is connect with someone on a different level, one of respect. As Chris said, “It’s like you can flick a switch of letting go. You can get out of your head and go to your heart.” Lead with your heart and your life will follow.

G xx

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Relative

Today, I realized something while scooping ice cream. Everything people consider normal is relative to them. I don’t really know how to phrase this- but I will give an example. As I was scooping ice cream for a costumer, they asked for vanilla on a regular cone to which I responded “which cone”. They were confused and said “the regular one”. Then I had to explain to them that there are two seemingly regular cones- the flat one or the pointy one.

I know this sounds bizarre- but it made me realize something about life. What I may view as the normal or regular cone may be different from someone else’s. It is relative to my point of view and experiences. This reminds me of a quote I read recently: “The entire world is a mirror. We experience the world the way we do because of who we are, not because of how it is.” (From “The Key and the Name of the Key is Willingness”) How remarkable is that idea? It is something you obviously know but you never put two and two together in order to comprehend that fact.

I have this theory- that even though people are from different backgrounds, religions, heritages, countries, speak different languages, have different skin, and everything else that differentiates ourselves from others- we are all the same. Not because of any religious aspect but because we are physically the same. When we are born we are truly capable to do and be anything we want. It is not our parents, our financial situation holding us back, it is only ourselves.

The only thing that matters is the way you view the world relative to the way you view yourself. If you view the world with yourself in it- then you will succeeded. But if you view the world without yourself in it- it will be impossible to achieve your goals.

I am an optimist. I truly believe that if something is meant to be- it will be! If it means looking at two ice cream cones to help you solve a piece of the puzzle- then so be it! If you just take a look around you and inside you- you will be able to see the world in a new light, relative to who you are.

G xx

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Try

Everything happens for a reason. I can’t tell you how many times I will repeat this and fully not understand what it really means.

Today I stumbled upon a beautiful piece that dealt with the way woman view themselves and the standards that they are put to. I am not writing this post to be all feministic but rather the opposite.

Most of the people who read this blog (I assume) are woman and I think that there should be a message to everyone in the world- especially woman- about the false beliefs that through the years we have fallen to believe and take part in.

Colbie Calliat in her new music video “Try” approached the idea of looking at yourself at your purest form. Looking in the mirror, taking your hair down, and your makeup off and truly embracing who you are. Isn’t that powerful?

I didn’t realize how much that makeup and the idea of the picture perfect girl affected me until I watched this music video. We see in the movies and on television that people whom we look up to aren’t who we think they are. They go to rehab for eating disorders and depression and we wonder how and why they can be just like us.

Well the truth is simple: if we are able to fully see inside of ourselves, look into our eyes, and feel proud of the image we see then we are able to try harder for ourselves throughout the day. We can see WHY we are worth more rather than hearing it.

We don’t need to create organizations and movements to stand up for the rights of woman if we just take it inside of ourselves to believe in us.

Everyone should try. Try not to wear makeup for a week. Or get your hair done for a special event. Or try to confine to the public opinion of beauty. Because when you are true to yourself- in your purest form- that is when you are the most beautiful.

If you are a girl or not- just try. Try to be a better version of yourself- your real self.

If you haven’t seen the video I would recommend watching it. You can find the link here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GXoZLPSw8U8

G xx

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Notice

Quotes have a funny way of popping up in all the right places at the right times. Every morning when I wake up I have a different quote and assignment for the day programed into my phone by the app “Transform Your Life”. Todays quote reads: The range of what we think and do is limited by what we fail to notice. And because we fail to notice that we fail to notice, there is little we can do to change until we notice how failing to notice shapes our thoughts and deeds. – R.D. Laing

Its funny because you truly don’t understand how much you miss until you miss something that you shouldn’t have. Thats why I think that we have to be reminded everyday of how blessed we are. If you wake up in the morning with a bad mood you won’t notice the bird signing on the tree or the extra oatmeal that someone left for you. You will just go about your day in a wrath.

I think that life would be better if everyone wakes up with a smile on their face. They will be able to notice all the good and bad in the world allowing them to make good conscious decisions. Then again if we were happy all the time we would never understand what it feels to be truly happy because all we know is being happy. So there has to be a balance. We have to know when to choose to be happy and when we are truly happy.

Life is a balance. We fight to keep the glass half full just as much as we fight to keep our lives meaningful. If we notice the little things, maybe we can understand the big things.

G xx

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Secrets

Normally, I am bad at telling people my feelings. I am the kind of person who kicks herself after a fight when I finally realize what I was really trying to say. I also am aware how truly ironic this sounds coming from someone who posts her feelings on the internet on a somewhat weekly basis- my apologies. But it is a lot for my to write my feelings then say them.

Ever since I was little I would always write my mom or dad little letters thanking them or saying I’m sorry because I just couldn’t say it to their face, and if I did it just wouldn’t sound like I really meant it. It sounds stupid and I guess I should have realized then that I sort of had a problem.

It doesn’t take much to realize that I have a lot of feelings. At the end of the day I am always going to be sensitive. As I’ve matured I found ways to bite my tongue and stay positive but still sometimes the truth hurts. I’ve been called names before and treated terribly but nothing compares to when someone tells you the truth about yourself. That is when your true colors come out because we know the person who told us the truth is right.

When someone tells me the truth about myself I just can’t handle it. I don’t know if I’ve always been this way or if it is something new but all of the sudden it just kind of scares me. I just run away- literally I go to my room and won’t face the littlest issue in my life.  I don’t really know why the truth scares me because it should be easier to know that something is a problem- but still its scary.

I think that it is important to come to terms with the way you feel and the way that topics affect you. Clearly I have some problems to work out- but so does everyone. Wellness is more than just feeling good about yourself- its about understanding. There is no way that I could even look at myself in a mirror if I didn’t understand everything that is underneath my skin- good or bad. That is when I was ready to make a big change in my life- when i finally lifted my cloud of self doubt and worries and understood why I couldn’t make a change earlier.

We are never truly going to 100% change the way that certain topics effect us; old habits die hard. We just have to understand and find ways to make it easier. Somehow, between watching old episodes of 30 Rock, crying over Modern Family, and reading about One Direction (another secret that I swore I wouldn’t share to you all, but since we are in the mood I decided to just go all in) I understood what I needed to change in my life to make me successful.This change isn’t something drastic- all it really takes is staying seated and count to ten before talking back but I am sure its going to make a tremendous difference in my life.

So, if you haven’t said it lately thank everyone who tells you the truth because as hard as it is to hear it, it is ten times harder to say it. And as Zayn always says “Just close your eyes and enjoy the roller coaster that is life” I would also like to add- open your eyes to make sure you don’t run into trees or human beings.

If you are at all interested at anything I have to say make sure to follow my personal instagram: @gracekenney my health/wellness instagram: @blissful_wellness and my twitter @graceAkenney to be updated on my sarcastic and sometimes embarrassing life.

G xx

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Something To Think About

Today, while reading Marie Claire Magazine, I realized something ironic. In the June issue the subject of anxiety is brought up. It was brought up a lot actually, and that is when I realized how big of an issue it is in our culture.

As I have said before and will say again- being a teenager is not fun. The major reason why is the lack of understanding. From personal experience I know how terrifying it is to live day to day without knowing what will happen.

Everyone is different: they have different friends, different experiences, different failures, different aspirations and dreams yet we are all the same. We are built the same and tend to react the same in situations. In general people have small doses of anxiety- and others have more severe attacks. Formally known as panic attacks.

I find it striking that such a well-known magazine would bring up this topic so casually without addressing its true purpose. The general amount of anxiety of the culture has dramatically increased within the last few years. I believe this has a direct correlation to the lack of independence and control this world has.

Before Facebook and texting you would have to sit face to face with someone to truly understand them.  These days the truth of ones true personality becomes hidden under the surface each and every time they pop up on social media.  Before we realize it- we don’t even know who we are anymore. We just care about what other people want us to be and suddenly that’s who we become.

I know this sounds sad and depressing- but it is true. It is not as extreme as you would think but it is there lurking over your head like a bad perfume. People don’t understand the concept of individuality and therefore stick to similarity. Then when small events happen in their life they don’t know what to do, they can’t handle it. Suddenly small daily tasks turn into monstrous, tormenting battles. The spiral is out of control and then it attacks.  It happens slowly, it happens often, but yet it happens to more people than you think.

In a world where “oh my god, shut up I hate you” and “you’re such a loser” are common phrases that are said without much meaning our cultures confidence is slowly fading. We aren’t respecting each other or ourselves.

We are all in this together- each and every day. If we be ourselves and learn to live with the fact that we can’t control our lives maybe our culture will be more calm and respectful. Anxiety is something than control and by recent events it seems as though we need to address this issue on a bigger stage.

G xx