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He For She

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Today as I was scrolling through the Internet I stumbled upon an article about Emma Watson. If you have been on Facebook recently you probably would have seen her name on the top of the trending topics. Normally, if I found an article that I know everyone read I wouldn’t write about it but since the topic is something I so important to me I decided it was acceptable.

Feminism is a word that makes me (and others) cringe when talked about in society today. I have read every book about the topic including New York Times Best Sellers Lean In, #GirlBoss, Bossypants, and Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me?; to name a few. Everything that these powerful women are trying to prove is a cause they shouldn’t have to fight for. And as much as I hate to admit it, I wear the label of feminist.

Although these books vary in humor, they all are pointing towards the same conclusion. These authors, comedians, actresses, businesswomen, and writers look at the facts in our society today. Woman are not treated the same as men are in the sense of having equal opportunities. Similarly, men do not have as much emotional autonomy as woman do.

During a UN speech, Emma Watson pondered the questions “If not me then who? If not now then when? These questions, although simple are not easy to answer. We often assume that other people are going to do the dirty work for us. If the problem is universal why do we have to take care of finding a solution?

Instead of focusing on empowering women to stand up for themselves, Emma invited the men. She explained, “I’ve seen men made fragile and insecure by a distorted sense of what constitutes male success. Men don’t have the benefits of equality, either.” The word feminist is perceived as woman being portrayed as masculine, but what is the word we use for men who are going through sensitive issues? There is none.

More than that, Emma wants men to fight “so their daughters, sisters and mothers can be free from prejudice but also so their sons have permission to be vulnerable and human, too and in doing so, be a more true and complete version of themselves”. These causes have never been brought up in a debate before. Why is that?

This week the UN introduced a new campaign: He For She. This campaign does not wish to simply talk about improving the well being of humans, they strive to fix the problem before it is too late.

While taking a closer look at this topic, it is clear how pertinent inequality is in our lives; being either a male or a female. Today as I went through my normal activities, I took a step back and realized the minor distinctions for men and woman to live simultaneously in this big wide world; just in the little normal antics that we have become used to in our lives.

As you took time to read this post, I ask this of you: take a moment of your day and watch the speech that Emma gave and make one small goal for yourself to help push past this setback. Do it not for yourself, but for the future generations. It starts with one person, and maybe today it starts with you.

G xx

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Music In Your Bones

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Its funny how sometimes music can make you feel nothing, and other times it can make you feel everything at once. Some people define music as notes and words forming into a song but for me, it is all about the harmony; that second of perfect agreement between two notes.

My favorite quote about music is written by Benjamin Britten who states “It is cruel, you know, that music should be so beautiful. It has the beauty of loneliness of pain: of strength and freedom. The beauty of disappointment and never-satisfied love. The cruel beauty of nature and everlasting beauty of monotony.”

One of the classes that I am taking this semester is The Math of Music. What I’ve realized through taking the class is sometimes; the most beautiful music is silence. I find the beauty in silence. Whenever I preform on stage, or go to a concert my favorite moment is the millisecond of silence separating the last chord and the first clap. The small period of time which holds your heart out in the open before putting it back together again.

Preforming music makes you vulnerable, that is a fact. But what we don’t realize is that listening causes the same sensations. Today, as I was talking to my friend Hailey, we started talking about what we do to help numb the gloom. We both agreed that listening to music helps but she went on to say that when she listens to music she feels as though it can make you the happiest person or the saddest person in the world but in reality it’s ultimately your choice to choose how you want to feel.

Whatever you are going through, whether it be big or small, remember that it is your decision to be happy. All it takes is one conscious effort to be the bigger and better person; the happier person. Then maybe, the next time you hear silence you’ll start singing along.

G xx

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Wanderlust

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When people ask me where I see myself in ten years I don’t have a good answer. I just tell them that I want to be happy, as lame as that sounds. I don’t care how much money I have or the type of apartment that I am living in. I just want to be happy.

I have always been in love with traveling. I often say I am in love with the idea of not knowing who I am going to be when I arrive at a destination. I have a list of ambitions that I would like to accomplish before I die. I keep them in the corner of my journal titled “Wanderlust”.

Part of my wanderlust ambitions entails traveling the world. I want to see all the edges of the earth. Walk with the elephants in Tanzania, meditate in the Himalayas, fall in love in Paris, get lost in a vineyard in Italy, walk the great wall of china, sun bathe in Australia, jump off a cliff in Greece, learn how to dance the waltz in a ballroom in Russia, you get the picture.

Every now and then I meet people who make me want to be this spontaneous. Who show me that I can do anything in this big ole world as long as I trust myself. It’s amazing how fearless you become when someone believes in you. It’s magical.

No matter who you are, where you come from, or how confident you are in yourself somehow you stumbled upon this post. Written by a little bliss-obsessed girl who is looking to jump into the deep end of wanderlust. You are good enough, you are strong enough, and at the end of the day if it makes you happy screw what anyone else thinks. (Pardon my French)

We choose how to live our lives, and I guess that makes it harder. So be happy. Smile. Find bliss in everything you encounter. Fall in love with people you’ve never met and places you’ve never been. You never know when someday suddenly turns into today.

G xx

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Never Forget

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It’s a day that you will never forget; one that causes a pause when written on the top corner of a page. You think of those 2,977 people who aren’t able to write the date and gasp before shaking the thought and getting on with your day.

You may read the newspaper, watch a program, or maybe even say a prayer. For some you may be one of those who are affected directly, and for that I am deeply sorry.

No matter who you are, how old you are, and where you live you should remember that day. Remember the tragedy, anxiety, stress, and sadness. Because soon it’s going to just be a date on a calendar; but it will never be for us those who saw the attack.

As expected, there are lots of posts on social media today. From love ones mourning, bystanders watching, and everyone in between. One in particular caught my eye. It was a story about a man who worked in one of the towers. He bought a new pair of shoes and decided that it was the perfect day to wear them. Unfortunately, even before he got to work they gave him a blister. He quickly ran to the drug store to buy some Band-Aids. That is why he is alive today.

There is a reason why every moment happens for a reason. I know we fight it and don’t understand it. You forget that wherever you are is where you are supposed to be. Today, as we find ourselves reflecting take a minute to think about the 2,977 people who are not with us today. Find one small way to make the world a better place, something that they would have done and above all be thankful for the experience to live another day in this beautiful world.

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Time to Shine

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Everyone starts with a blank page, and it is our job to throw the paint on it. There are different layers and patterns we can choose from, or we can just close our eyes and let it go. We have the power and the responsibility to be anyone that we want in this world. We can create a name for ourselves that we never even knew existed.

Someone once told me that none of us are truly afraid of the dark; we’re scared of what it hides from us. We are afraid of that fact that something right before our eyes can have the potential to hurt us, and we won’t be able to register it. What we don’t realize, however, is that even in the light the dark shines through.

Great people do things before they’re ready. When they look back and reflect they realize second they listened to their instincts everything fell into place. Often when we choose to make a life altering decision, we don’t think about it for a while (although to others it may seem like we are) the decision was made the minute the offer was on the table.

Being adventurous, daring, dreamful, fun, loving, inspirational is part of what makes us human. We see the small opening on the corner and we run with it. Because everything we want in this world is on the other side of fear. We learn to alter our anxieties and turn them into passions. Take our dreams and make them a reality. Above all, we become the go-getters that we had inside of us all this time but were too afraid to show.

Layer by layer, moment by moment, something inside of us slowly creeps out. Our subconscious knows what is on the other side of the horizon; so why can’t we trust ourselves? Intuition is the only thing that separates us from pure bliss.

It’s time to be alive, learn from your mistakes, and fall in love with the world and everything it has to offer.

Gxx

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Change

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I have been meaning to post this for a while- but I wasn’t sure it really made sense until now. I came to the conclusion in the middle of the summer that change is a good thing only if you don’t know when it’s coming. Change is only scary when you are anticipating it, which of course I was.

Last year, while watching a documentary the topic came up of how to stay grounded in the spotlight of millions of people. He explained: “I go to this park and even though I have changed, I’ve grown up and am living my dream, this park stays the same.” Somehow, when I was taking a walk on the beach, I realized how that feels.

In the beginning of a new experience we start to freak out because we have no idea what to do. We spend each second before anticipating what could happen. When we get there, somehow we build up the courage to put one foot in front of another and power through it. Before you know it, what was new is now old and something you used to be scared of is now second nature.

We know we have to change. We know that change is a good thing, yet we forget that we know how to change. Life is too short to freak out and live in the shadows of yesterday. We have to smile and act like we are okay. Because in the beginning it may be terrible having to put a smile on your face, but before you know it you wonder why you were frowning in the first place.

All you have to do is act the part, play along with life and before you know it the light will be shining on you. This fall, as it seems that everyone I know will be going through change, remember to smile through the pain because no matter how hard it is to change the adventures on the other side of the door are unimaginable.

If you ever feel lost or get ahead of yourself go somewhere old where you have memories of the past. Sit there for a while and think about what you accomplished. Maybe, just maybe, you’ll begin to understand why the world changes in the first place.

G xx

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We

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I recently came across this idea that everyone cherishes our differences from one another. When you first meet someone rather than looking at the similarities between you too we see the differences. We tend to exaggerate our differences by minimizing our similarities. “If you are like most people, then like most people, you don’t know if you’re like most peole” – Daniel Gilbert a study shown in the book: “The Art of happiness in a Troubled World.”

In this book the authors, the Dalai Lama and Howard Cutler, explore the concept of me vs we. While reading, I kept agreeing with the fact that there is a distinction in the way we view ourselves to other people, but I couldn’t understand why until the Dalai Lama came up with an example. He told Dr. Cutler that in the Tibetan language the word ‘ngatso’ has two definitions: we; many I’s. In the English language we see those two words as two separate ideas, yet for the tibetans they are combined.

The difference between understanding two different cultures is sometimes lost in the translation. Even if you can speak both languages you can’t fully understand what the concept is. It’s not me or we. It’s me and we. When we change the context of the sentence our inclusiveness is what leads us to seeing the similarity more clearly rather than the difference.

We are always told to try to take the words I and me out of our vocabulary when we first meet someone because we never want to talk about ourselves, we should ask questions. What I realized after reading this chapter is that people act differently when they first meet someone.

We strive to find that one single piece of information that connects our lives together. Through a mutual friend, place of vacation, love for a certain genre of music, and so on. Once we find this one similarity however, we try to make ourselves feel superior by maximizing our experiences.

As I have said before, this concept is simple but not easy. But it is important to understand why our minds work this way. We don’t always have to be the superior person in the circumstance, we can just be mutuals. Maybe, by using this technique we can find the happiness in our troubled, troubled world.

G xx

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Connection

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There’s something inside each of us that sparks indescribable feelings. This is a fact. It is different for each person. Sometimes it’s seeing the smile on someone’s face after saving a loved ones life. For others it is the moment of knowing that you aced a test that you studied all year for.

For me it is a lot of things. But a way to incorporate all of my passions into one is experiencing a simple moment of connection between people; one-on-one or to thousands of people all over the world.

I haven’t mastered the skill of sharing my feelings while in conversation. I just have so much to tell people. That is why I like to write and I like to sing because there is always a way to connect with someone without really saying anything- just looking into their eyes.

While I was watching a Coldplay Concert Movie Chris Martin said “and we look at each other and its like a great feeling that you might never look at that person in the eyes ever again so you have a little connection. It’s like every time you look at someone in the eyes you put a little thread between you so you can really connect and you have to approach everything with the freshness that they bring to it so by the time you finish you get a spider web of connections rather than a detachment which is what I used to sometimes feel.”

While hearing Chris talk about this experience I began to understand what he meant by this. We talk about connection and meaning. We think that we have to pour our heart and soul out and be in this vulnerable state where anything we say can break us yet expand us. I just now realized that all you have to do is be open, and look into someones eyes to see the truth.

Again today, I was reminded how much the human touch can affect someone. During a panic attack the best thing to do is to have someone hug you. In the beginning you fight it and try to push off but as the person continues to add pressure on your body you begin to breathe easier.

These simple forms of communication and connection is what provides us with the courage to move on. It is hard to aimlessly go through life without knowing someone will be there to catch you when you are down. To think that a hug or looking into someones eyes can give them the confidence to continue is something that makes humans unlike any other species.

We don’t need hour long speeches of praise or notes of encouragement to feel the satisfaction or love that is given. All we need to do is connect with someone on a different level, one of respect. As Chris said, “It’s like you can flick a switch of letting go. You can get out of your head and go to your heart.” Lead with your heart and your life will follow.

G xx

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Relative

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Today, I realized something while scooping ice cream. Everything people consider normal is relative to them. I don’t really know how to phrase this- but I will give an example. As I was scooping ice cream for a costumer, they asked for vanilla on a regular cone to which I responded “which cone”. They were confused and said “the regular one”. Then I had to explain to them that there are two seemingly regular cones- the flat one or the pointy one.

I know this sounds bizarre- but it made me realize something about life. What I may view as the normal or regular cone may be different from someone else’s. It is relative to my point of view and experiences. This reminds me of a quote I read recently: “The entire world is a mirror. We experience the world the way we do because of who we are, not because of how it is.” (From “The Key and the Name of the Key is Willingness”) How remarkable is that idea? It is something you obviously know but you never put two and two together in order to comprehend that fact.

I have this theory- that even though people are from different backgrounds, religions, heritages, countries, speak different languages, have different skin, and everything else that differentiates ourselves from others- we are all the same. Not because of any religious aspect but because we are physically the same. When we are born we are truly capable to do and be anything we want. It is not our parents, our financial situation holding us back, it is only ourselves.

The only thing that matters is the way you view the world relative to the way you view yourself. If you view the world with yourself in it- then you will succeeded. But if you view the world without yourself in it- it will be impossible to achieve your goals.

I am an optimist. I truly believe that if something is meant to be- it will be! If it means looking at two ice cream cones to help you solve a piece of the puzzle- then so be it! If you just take a look around you and inside you- you will be able to see the world in a new light, relative to who you are.

G xx

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Try

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Everything happens for a reason. I can’t tell you how many times I will repeat this and fully not understand what it really means.

Today I stumbled upon a beautiful piece that dealt with the way woman view themselves and the standards that they are put to. I am not writing this post to be all feministic but rather the opposite.

Most of the people who read this blog (I assume) are woman and I think that there should be a message to everyone in the world- especially woman- about the false beliefs that through the years we have fallen to believe and take part in.

Colbie Calliat in her new music video “Try” approached the idea of looking at yourself at your purest form. Looking in the mirror, taking your hair down, and your makeup off and truly embracing who you are. Isn’t that powerful?

I didn’t realize how much that makeup and the idea of the picture perfect girl affected me until I watched this music video. We see in the movies and on television that people whom we look up to aren’t who we think they are. They go to rehab for eating disorders and depression and we wonder how and why they can be just like us.

Well the truth is simple: if we are able to fully see inside of ourselves, look into our eyes, and feel proud of the image we see then we are able to try harder for ourselves throughout the day. We can see WHY we are worth more rather than hearing it.

We don’t need to create organizations and movements to stand up for the rights of woman if we just take it inside of ourselves to believe in us.

Everyone should try. Try not to wear makeup for a week. Or get your hair done for a special event. Or try to confine to the public opinion of beauty. Because when you are true to yourself- in your purest form- that is when you are the most beautiful.

If you are a girl or not- just try. Try to be a better version of yourself- your real self.

If you haven’t seen the video I would recommend watching it. You can find the link here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GXoZLPSw8U8

G xx