The other day when I was crossing the street I saw a school bus with the word “Dependability” written across the side. Dependability is the quality of being able to be counted on or relied upon. So, why, I thought to myself, does a yellow school bus have this word written across it?
Later that night I watched the documentary “Happy” on Netflix. This documentary goes searches through paths of life trying to answer the true question of happiness. As you could imagine, there were many different discoveries.
When we work in a community with others we realize how much we have to give. It makes our mindset switch from what I don’t have to what I do have. Ultimately, we all need something bigger than ourselves to care about. It doesn’t have to be structured religion, it can be spiritual emotions: compassion, gratitude, and love that connect us to the universe and to other people. It makes us see that the world is bigger than ourselves.
Through many different studies it is proven that humans cooperate rather then compete in order to not be self interest people, because we are social creatures.
Our modern culture now promotes competition in the media within different television shows. We watch singing competitions like The Voice and American Idol, Food Competitions like Top Chef and Cupcake Wars, even Toddlers And Tiaras which shows one year olds dressed up and paraded around a stage.
During the documentary, one speaker had a class full of middle school students raise their hands after asking who witnesses others being isolated and picked on, to which nearly the whole class raised their hands. He told them that the missing piece is that now a days we lost touch of what seeing is, we think it is with our eyes but really it is with our hearts.
He later told a story he heard about a girl participating in the special olympics. This girl was winning the race by forty yards and she stopped right before the finish line. Her coach was screaming telling her to just walk one step to finish and win the race! She looked at him pleading for him to stop before turning around and putting her hand out to her friend who then put his hand out to another friend, finally all six kids crossed the finish line hand in hand. The girl, screaming with joy shouted, “together we all would win!”
This girl, who is picked on and looked down upon did something that no one else had the courage to do. No one on a championship team, in the classroom, on the stage would ever think of doing for someone else. This story proves the point that compassion, from birth, is in our blood not only in beginning, but for our whole life. It is our responsibility to help those whom have lost it to find theirs.
In the end, being happy doesn’t have to be extreme, the trick is to be authentic and yourself. Just be aware, play, have new experiences, friends and family, doing things that are meaningful, appreciate what we have: those are what makes us happy and in the end sets us free.
By now I am sure you are wondering how this talk of happiness relates to dependability. Well, my friends the point of this lesson is to show you that in life in order to be happy you have to depend on yourself. You have to walk tall, listen to others, and reach out to those who are in need and those who may be hiding it, because you never know how a small act can influence someones life.
I found a quote that I think is perfect for the answer to my question. “When you are hugging a child, always be the last one to let go. You never know how long they need it.”
Finally after writing this post, I googled “School Bus Dependability” and realized that there is a Philadelphia Bus Company named Dependability and this is reason I saw that bus. But deep down in my somewhat naive heart I would like to think that the reason that bus drove past me was to show that dependability at its core is increased by being truly and utterly happy.